Today's verse in the judgedchristian community:
If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over. -- Matthew 18:15
This seems like such common sense... But most of the time people don't do it. Most of the time, it's cause for back-biting, gossip, etc. This stuff can be extremely hurtful--perhaps it's the most difficult kind of sin to overcome. Sometimes the best way of overcoming a negative behavior is not in trying to just stop it but in replacing it with a more appropriate behavior (like talking to the person privately).
Just some early morning thoughts that I've been working on putting into practice... I still stumble, as many people do--the tongue is something no one has yet to tame. But I am still trying. There have been a number of times in my life when people have gabbed about me in public and I would absolutely love to return the favor--and even felt that I should have the right to, especially when they are people who make it impossible for me to speak to them about our differences. But I won't disgrace them in the same manner they have disgraced me. In time, life does have a way of revealing truth. In these situations God is my defender, and I have to let Him do His thing.