I sometimes get into discussions online in which I disagree with people. I have a fairly direct style of communication; but it doesn't mean that I don't care. If I feel that I am being manipulated, I will say so. I don't have time to do a lot of circular dialogue. However, if someone is in deep distress and needs time spent, I will make time if I can at all do so.
The fact that I post something with a strong opinion does not mean that I am being "nasty." These kinds of accusations are very hurtful to me, as they are attacks on my personal motivations. If you choose to defriend me over something you don't like, that is fine; but please do not accuse me of nastiness to the rest of your friends behind my back. If something I say upsets you, either simply remove me quietly or take it up with me personally. Please do not further wound me in the process of defriending me.
I welcome people back at any time. I do not enjoy disquiet in relationships.
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HUGS to you!
It's hard, but when a defriending happens for whatever reason, being treated badly or slandered by the one you defriended isn't good and certainly not necessary.
Very warm hugs.
It was very hard for me to learn to communicate well. For much of my life I either did not communicate, or I would take things extremely hard and beg and plead for people to make things ok. I would have been the first person to cave if there was a conflict, even if what I was doing was not respectable. Looking back, I don't like the person I once was much at all, and I wouldn't really feel that I could rely on that person compared to the person I am now.
you are right,it isnt nice to talk behind people's backs like that and i wish you well and think you are a good and insightfull person
you are in my prayers,i think your realy quite cool!
a real friend, would also have the maturity not to trash you behind your back in a public forum; since what ever's online is basically public anyway even if it's protected. You have to trust that the people reading what you write aren't going to go play cut and paste. I've seen folks do it; so basically, he/she is trashing you in a public forum and that's incredibly immature and rude.
It's your journal, and you should feel safe that whoever you have listed as your "friends," are really that, and that you are safe to spout off about what ever. It's, your journal. Those who don't like it may leave if they choose, but if they are truly your friends as opposed to mere readers of your writing, they ought to at least tell you why they unfriended you.